Fuck Boys but Also Fuck Boys

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demosolly:

why does shipping fandom here think that the ‘really possessive boyfriend’ trope is super cute like i keep seeing headcanons for ships involving x character flipping out when y character talks to other boys or going through y character’s phones and. that’s not really adorable so much as it is fucking creepy as fuck im sorry

(Source: lornacrowleys, via meiyaoi)

Filed under yep basically worst trope for me if this happens in something im reading and its portrayed in a positive light 100% i'll stop reading.

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Anonymous asked: How do I write straight characters? I hear they are different from gay people in some areas and I want to make sure my portrayals of them aren't offensive.

fuckyeahcharacterdevelopment:

Okay, so this is obviously a dig at the LGBQA+ series, and I would normally delete this, but I want to clarify the point behind the series.  Heterosexual characters are everywhere.  You find them in just about all - if not every - book you read, movie you watch, etc.  It’s not at all difficult to find heterosexual characters in media; therefore, it’s not hard to write them.  With a million examples available, one can clearly get an idea of how to write a straight character.  These examples are everywhere, and they’re not hard to get to.

It’s very different with LGBTQIA+ characters.  There are few examples of LGBTQIA+ characters in mainstream media, or even media in general, and many of the examples I’ve come across have been horribly inaccurate and/or offensive.  This is the issue.  There are no examples of LGBTQIA+ characters, so it’s hard to get a general idea of how to portray these characters without being offensive or horribly wrong.  This does not mean that LGBTQIA+ people are different from straight people in the sense that everyone is human and alike by means of basic human characteristics or that a person’s sexuality is what defines them as a person; however, LGBTQIA+ people have different experiences that straight people.  They see certain things differently, experience different feelings, and deal with much more than a straight person would in their life.  While sexuality isn’t the basis of any person, it is a big part of them, and it absolutely influences their life in major ways.  It’s important that, when writing LGBTQIA+ characters, all of these factors are taken into consideration and portrayed in an accurate and inoffensive way.

TL;DR Straight characters are everywhere and you don’t need a guide because there are millions of examples to draw from; whereas, there are few examples of queer characters in media, making finding good examples harder and less likely, requiring guides such as the LGBQA+ Series.

-Grammar

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coldweatherr:

ColdWeather: Can you believe i got hate on that last LoZ pic? Because apparently im…

jejunemondegreen:

coldweatherr:

jejunemondegreen:

coldweatherr:

Can you believe i got hate on that last LoZ pic? Because apparently im shipping Link and Zelda too hard. To clarify, im not a huge fan of shipping at all to be honest. I prefer canon, and if i do ship its usually a mere suggestion. If you ask who i would Ship Link with, id honestly say, every…

Lololololololol. Bro are you even listening to yourself?

It makes sense to me, I don’t support specific pairings for Link because every girl is his. It’s not really a shipping if its for the whole female cast am i right? But that’s just legend of Zelda, in terms of all the other shows and games etc that im into, i generally don’t mind who falls for who or if they even pair up at all. Im not into picking two characters and pairing them romantically (aka Shipping). Sorry if i had to slow things down for you…

It’s got nothing to do with the shipping tho?????

Like really read over your post again.

Which brings me to my next point. The entitlement factor. Many girls like to argue, that Link going through hell and back for Zelda (or any girl) doesn’t make him entitles to sex. Just like in real life a guy shouldn’t expect sex just because he does nice things for a girl. Sure i can see where theyre coming from, it’s not how it works. But at the same time i have just got to call bullshit. If theres a guy who goes out of his way to greatly help you when youre in need not once, not twice, every time youre in need, which for some girls is EVERY once in a while FUCKING DAY. Im not saying just drop your pants for him, but i think the girl should definitely take a look at him, and not just a side-glance and not just when you need more help.

^^^^ Because that’s it right there, that’s the entitlement. Expecting a romatic relationship from someone for being nice to them is the same as expecting a sexual relationship from them. Just because it’s ~romantic~ and ~loving~ doesn’t mean it’s any less scummy and misogynistic. You totally contradicted yourself in that quote up there.

I don’t care if a dude wants me to fuck him, date him or even just be friends with him just because he’s nice to me. If I don’t want to I’m not going to.

I specifically said its not about sex or even a relationship, i merely said look at him and remember that he’s there not just when you need him. 

So you’d  be mean to a guy that’s nice to you just because you can? And he’s not entitled to be treated nice simply because he’s nice to others but based on whether or not you feel like being nice? Thats what i took from that…I find it funny that you call that entitlement, while girls feel like they’re entitled to so much simply because they’re girls.

Really here is my response again because obviously you didn’t read it:

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I’m going to be nice to someone because it’s the right thing to do but if I find out a dude’s only being nice to me because he wants in my pants then hell yeah i’m gonna tell him to eat a bag of dicks

what i’m saying is you were being a total hypocrite in that last post because you said a girl doesn’t owe a guy sex for him being nice to her but she should consider dating him and even if it’s something an innocent as a date that’s still bad and still a guy thinking he’s entitled to something for being nice to a girl

"And he’s not entitled to be treated nice simply because he’s nice to others?"

Yes yes he is and women are entitled to be treated nicely simply because it’s the right thing to do and NOT be told that they should at least consider dating the dude. Everyone should be nice to each other because it’s the right thing to do not because we expect something out of it end of story

Everyone should be thankful to everyone when they help each other out but you’re calling out women like it’s specifically their problem and we should worship a guy every time he does something nice for us??

And you have to face the fact that it’s been ingrained into the minds of women to always be suspicious of dudes when they’re nice to us because they might want to actually hurt us and it’s really hard to get rid of that mindset. Especially since it’s not true at all and not every dude is out to get you, but it’s really hard to beat down that nagging voice in the back of you’re head saying ‘he’s not being nice because he is only because he wants to get laid’. You know??

But berating women for this fear is really gross and not helping the problem at all. Screaming for any kind of reward is sort of acting like a petulant child…

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ColdWeather: Can you believe i got hate on that last LoZ pic? Because apparently im...

coldweatherr:

jejunemondegreen:

coldweatherr:

jejunemondegreen:

coldweatherr:

Can you believe i got hate on that last LoZ pic? Because apparently im shipping Link and Zelda too hard. To clarify, im not a huge fan of shipping at all to be honest. I prefer canon, and if i do ship its usually a mere suggestion. If you ask who i would Ship Link with, id honestly say, every…

Lololololololol. Bro are you even listening to yourself?

It makes sense to me, I don’t support specific pairings for Link because every girl is his. It’s not really a shipping if its for the whole female cast am i right? But that’s just legend of Zelda, in terms of all the other shows and games etc that im into, i generally don’t mind who falls for who or if they even pair up at all. Im not into picking two characters and pairing them romantically (aka Shipping). Sorry if i had to slow things down for you…

It’s got nothing to do with the shipping tho?????

Like really read over your post again.

Which brings me to my next point. The entitlement factor. Many girls like to argue, that Link going through hell and back for Zelda (or any girl) doesn’t make him entitles to sex. Just like in real life a guy shouldn’t expect sex just because he does nice things for a girl. Sure i can see where theyre coming from, it’s not how it works. But at the same time i have just got to call bullshit. If theres a guy who goes out of his way to greatly help you when youre in need not once, not twice, every time youre in need, which for some girls is EVERY once in a while FUCKING DAY. Im not saying just drop your pants for him, but i think the girl should definitely take a look at him, and not just a side-glance and not just when you need more help.

^^^^ Because that’s it right there, that’s the entitlement. Expecting a romatic relationship from someone for being nice to them is the same as expecting a sexual relationship from them. Just because it’s ~romantic~ and ~loving~ doesn’t mean it’s any less scummy and misogynistic. You totally contradicted yourself in that quote up there.

I don’t care if a dude wants me to fuck him, date him or even just be friends with him just because he’s nice to me. If I don’t want to I’m not going to.

So you’d  be mean to a guy that’s nice to you just because you can? And he’s not entitled to be treated nice simply because he’s nice to others? Thats what i took from that…

uMMMM not wanting to date a guy =/= being mean

You’re just making this 100% worse for yourself you’re digging your grave deeper


I’m going to be nice to someone because it’s the right thing to do but if I find out a dude’s only being nice to me because he wants in my pants then hell yeah i’m gonna tell him to eat a bag of dicks

what i’m saying is you were being a total hypocrite in that last post because you said a girl doesn’t owe a guy sex for him being nice to her but she should consider dating him and even if it’s something an innocent as a date that’s still bad and still a guy thinking he’s entitled to something for being nice to a girl

And he’s not entitled to be treated nice simply because he’s nice to others?

Yes yes he is and women are entitled to be treated nicely simply because it’s the right thing to do and NOT be told that they should at least consider dating the dude. Everyone should be nice to each other because it’s the right thing to do not because we expect something out of it end of story

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seriously tho i’ve had guys be nice to me in an attempt to get me to date them like no intention of sex even (or at least they aren’t vocal about it) but that’s just as terrifying because what happens when i say no?? will they get mad or threaten me? or hurt me? like you think you know them but that uncertainty is really the worst thing ever and it’s like really???? the only reason you were ever nice to me was because you wanted me to date you? not because it’s a decent thing to do? if that’s really you’re reason for being nice to me then why should i because then you’re not actually a nice person you’re just being nice so you can get a girlfriend and what happens after? do you stop being nice and just not care? either way Nice Guys ™ are scary as hell.

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ColdWeather: Can you believe i got hate on that last LoZ pic? Because apparently im...

coldweatherr:

jejunemondegreen:

coldweatherr:

Can you believe i got hate on that last LoZ pic? Because apparently im shipping Link and Zelda too hard. To clarify, im not a huge fan of shipping at all to be honest. I prefer canon, and if i do ship its usually a mere suggestion. If you ask who i would Ship Link with, id honestly say, every…

Lololololololol. Bro are you even listening to yourself?

It makes sense to me, I don’t support specific pairings for Link because every girl is his. It’s not really a shipping if its for the whole female cast am i right? But that’s just legend of Zelda, in terms of all the other shows and games etc that im into, i generally don’t mind who falls for who or if they even pair up at all. Im not into picking two characters and pairing them romantically (aka Shipping). Sorry if i had to slow things down for you…

It’s got nothing to do with the shipping tho?????

Like really read over your post again.

Which brings me to my next point. The entitlement factor. Many girls like to argue, that Link going through hell and back for Zelda (or any girl) doesn’t make him entitles to sex. Just like in real life a guy shouldn’t expect sex just because he does nice things for a girl. Sure i can see where theyre coming from, it’s not how it works. But at the same time i have just got to call bullshit. If theres a guy who goes out of his way to greatly help you when youre in need not once, not twice, every time youre in need, which for some girls is EVERY once in a while FUCKING DAY. Im not saying just drop your pants for him, but i think the girl should definitely take a look at him, and not just a side-glance and not just when you need more help.

^^^^ Because that’s it right there, that’s the entitlement. Expecting a romatic relationship from someone for being nice to them is the same as expecting a sexual relationship from them. Just because it’s ~romantic~ and ~loving~ doesn’t mean it’s any less scummy and misogynistic. You totally contradicted yourself in that quote up there.

I don’t care if a dude wants me to fuck him, date him or even just be friends with him just because he’s nice to me. If I don’t want to I’m not going to.

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kinda want to start my blog over but at the same time too lazy to re-follow and make it pretty.

i mean i already made the account and followed a couple people but then got bored